Silence can be painful after a breakup. He spoke daily, sent hundreds of text messages back and forth every week. They saw each other, hung out, slept hugging, and then like this … NOTHING.
It seems almost unnatural that you can go from so much physical and emotional contact to not even talking, plain and simple. Does your ex miss you? Want to call or text you, but right now hypocrisy?
The truth is that she really does.
However, the reason your ex doesn’t call is because making that kind of move could change her mind. Seeing you, hearing from you again … you think these things could influence her in the direction of dating you again. And they would … but only if she initiates contact. And not if you were the one who contacted her.
Post-breakup contact between you and your ex
Look, you can’t contact your ex right now. Everything you do in that regard will be seen as aggressive and also a bit desperate. She broke up with you and in doing so retains all power. She has the keys to get back together, and the more you hold them, the further away she’s going to have them.
But there are ways to making her give you the keys.
The above methods and techniques are suitable not only for reopening the lines of communication between you and a silent ex-girlfriend, but also for changing the way she views the whole breakup. With just a few simple words and suggestions, you can turn the balance of power in your favor. You can have SHE call YOU. And not only that, but your girlfriend will start to see you, and haunt you, the way she did at the beginning of your romance, when she was so totally in love with you that she couldn’t contact you enough.
Why does your girlfriend keep quiet after breaking up with you
Understand that breaking up is difficult for both sides. Yes, you were the loser in the breakup. Yes, it is definitely more painful for you. At the same time, however, his girlfriend went through a lot of mental anguish and tough decision making before taking those final steps to break things up. She did a lot of soul searching. She was not sure.
That same uncertainty is why he isn’t calling or texting you right now. The break is a fragile thing. It can be broken and her decision reversed, but right now she is convinced that is not what she wants.
So what does she do? She ignores you. It’s easier for her that way. Your ex isn’t giving you the cold shoulder to intentionally hurt you, he’s doing it to avoid hurting himself.
Now you can’t reverse your decision right away. Don’t think you can use brute force to make your girlfriend want to take you back. In these initial stages, she is very reserved. Even the most innocent contact, like calling her to get some things you left at her house, will be seen by her as an excuse on your part for her to talk about getting back together.
A little later, it will be much more open. You will let your guard down and be vulnerable to suggestions. But before you can get to that point, you must endure the non-contact phase of the breakup. First you have to make him miss you, if you want to win his heart again.
Getting it back is a step-by-step process. If you follow these steps, not only will you be able to date your ex-girlfriend again, but the relationship you build together will be stronger than the previous one. Why? Because you didn’t rush her back to the same old routine. The extra time and effort necessary to carry out a proper reconciliation was taken.
How to break your silence when your ex doesn’t talk to you
Ideally, you want your ex to call you. This can happen in a number of ways, as there are methods you can use to get her to contact you by phone, text, or even just show up somewhere where she knows you’ll be and start talking to you face-to-face.
However, before this happens, she will have to miss you. Your ex has no reason to call you right now; it is not in your best interest to initiate contact. Right now she is probably busy with school or work. He spends a lot of free time with his friends again. Maybe he even took a trip, visited a family. These are all the things a girl will do right after breaking up with you, to stop thinking about you.
You have to think about yourself again. And the best way to do it? Stay completely off their radar.
This is where most guys go wrong. It’s easy to think that the more “close” to your ex, the more she’s on your mind. Facebook feeds, Instagram posts, walking alongside her in the hallway or hallways at work … those things will physically put you in front of your ex’s eyes, yes. But they will never put you in their heart again.
Do you want the brutal truth? The more your ex-girlfriend sees you, the less she needs to do it. After a while, you become completely invisible to her. He doesn’t even look at you anymore, he overlooks you. There is nothing special about seeing you, because she sees or hears a lot from you.
This is counterproductive to get it back because it doesn’t surprise you. She never has a chance to miss you because you never really leave. What if you are calling her? send you a text message? Tell her that you want another chance, or that things will be different if she accepts you back? You become even worse than invisible. You become a nuisance.
You need your ex girlfriend to WANT to hear from you again. She should WANT to see you, because she hasn’t heard from you in a long time. To achieve this you have to disappear from his life. You need to disappear from social networks; Don’t “unfriend” on Facebook or anything like that (it will make you look despised and petty), but don’t post any more. Take care of other things. Seeing friends, doing things to improve their appearance (exercise, new clothes, etc.) and style.
When you become a complete mystery again, suddenly you have courage. To become desirable, it must be made rare, even rare. Ideally, you should be concerned that you’re having more fun than her. Or better yet, maybe you’ve met someone else … and this is the reason why she hasn’t seen or heard from you in any way, shape, or form.
THIS is what will make her call you. THIS is why she will find an excuse to email or text you late at night just to “see how you are.” Congratulations. You just made your ex make first contact.
What to do if your ex-girlfriend doesn’t take the first step
If you’ve given up on her life and your ex still hasn’t made first contact, there are ways to force her to do so. Some of them are tricky, but if done correctly, they can get your ex back in touch with you quickly.
