Are you a superwoman at anything but deciphering male psychology? Do you understand everyone else in your life except the man you love? Does your relationship feel like a lot of work with very little reward?
Do you think men claim to want a strong woman, but then don’t respond well to one? If you’re struggling with the answers to these questions, it’s time to crack male psychology and start looking at your relationships from a man’s perspective.
Men need mystery and excitement in their relationships. This probably won’t surprise you, but you may be wondering how to keep the mystery alive after you and your partner have fallen into a comfortable routine with each other. After all, you’re rewarded at work for always being on time, always having all the right answers, and looking eager and ready to work. Try this with a man, though, and you’ll find there’s very little reward for being predictable. So lesson number one is to not treat your relationship like a job if you want to keep a man interested for long.
The next lesson in deciphering male psychology is learning how to create this aura of arousal that men desperately want. When a man is really interested in you, he goes crazy wondering what you are doing when you are not with him. So give him something to wonder about. Always be honest, but be elusive.
When you talk to him, leave out the details that you would normally share with one of your other friends. Have him slowly and playfully extract the information from you. No matter how comfortable you feel with a particular man, always leave something to his imagination.
One thing that may surprise you about male psychology is that men really do want a secure and loving relationship with a suitable partner. They want emotional intimacy as much as you do. In other words, they want a friend, a lover, a seductress, and a superwoman all in one package.
Oddly enough, though, it doesn’t always seem like men date women with these qualities. It can even seem like men are attracted to the opposite type of woman. Why is that? In most cases, men take a reactive approach to relationships rather than a proactive one. Instead of really examining what they want in a woman, they will take whoever comes along and make things easy for them. This is especially true when a man is young and there are many available women who simply make themselves available to him. As a mature man, he is more likely to start looking for a woman who is a true representation of what he wants in a life partner.
Knowing all this, what should you do to catch the man of your dreams?
Start with your appearance
Go for a classic and sexy look that is neither cheap nor ornate. Most men prefer women to dress flirty and feminine. Accentuate your assets but don’t reveal too much skin. Give him something to wonder about.
Drop a ball from time to time
Keep your personal life and work life separate. Don’t be so rigid about always picking up the phone when he calls or calling him back right away. Let him be the one waiting and waiting for you to call. And when he asks how your weekend was, don’t give him all the details.
let him lead
While you may feel perfectly comfortable in a leadership position, men feel more confident and secure when leading a relationship. This may sound old-fashioned, but for men to feel like men, they need to feel like they’re in charge. This need he has is not a negative reflection of you. He knows you’re capable of taking control, so don’t take offense to him. Instead, sit back, relax and enjoy.
Deciphering male psychology is simply a matter of understanding how men think and then responding to that in a way that creates security and happiness for both of you. Relationships are about commitment and acceptance. Don’t fight a man’s natural desire for excitement and control. Give him what he needs and you will get what you need too.
