The end of a first date can be confusing for many men as they are dating women. You may be wondering (but not limited to) the following:
* Did I try to kiss her?
*Am I trying to be invited in?
* Should I walk towards her to the door?
*I ask him if he had a good time?
*Shall I talk about another date with her?
* Is it appropriate to text her that night or Facebook and let her know I’m thinking of her?
*Should I send flowers or another gift the next day?
Let’s take these one by one.
Do I try to kiss her?
Unless you’re not sure if he likes you or not, then go for the kiss. I bet that sounds like advice that is the opposite of what you would expect. The idea is to always take the women inside us and make them ANTICIPATE the next time we are with them. If she’s laughed at all (or most) of your jokes, has completely focused on you, brushed against your arm or leg several times, and has those “light up” eyes when she looks at you, then don’t try to kiss her. Wait until date 2 to go for the kiss. If he really likes you, he’ll be at a fever pitch waiting for that “first kiss.”
However, if you have a girl who is acting a bit standoffish, not laughing or touching you, and is looking around the room as you talk, first of all end that date early and second of all, if you really want to make sure she It’s not inside you, go for the kiss. I bet she drives you crazy and then you can delete her number.
The kiss at the end of the first date should only be used to disqualify a girl you suspect is not interested.
Do I try to be invited in?
This article is for guys who are looking for a relationship. If a relationship is not something you like, then this advice is not for you.
For you who are looking for a relationship, the answer to the guest in question is NO. First of all, most of the other guys try it, and second, if they ask you out, do you think she’s a good candidate for a relationship? No, do you think you were the first guy she did that with? Right! I have a bridge to sell you if you think you were the only man to visit his apartment after date 1.
Should I walk her to the door?
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Yes, because you are a gentleman.
I ask him if he had a good time?
No, because that shows a lack of trust and you’re telegraphing that you need their approval. You know she had a good time because she was with a real gentleman who made her laugh! Just tell him you had a good time.
Am I talking about another date with her?
NO! Women respond to CHALLENGE and MYSTERY. Do you think she can anticipate another date with you if you try to fix it when you leave her? When you ask a woman out on a date while you’re still on a date, do you know what she hears? “I like you, do you like me? I want to make sure you like me, please!”
That’s what she hears! And as she listens to that, imagine your head on a puppy’s body gasping your words.
Be a MYSTERY, be a CHALLENGE and she’ll be thinking about you (despite her best efforts) between dates.
Is it appropriate to text her that night or Facebook and let her know I’m thinking of her?
First of all, stay away from social media! You can’t be a mystery to her if she knows what you had for breakfast on your social media page. She might look at your page and think “does she like pop tarts? I hate pop tarts and the guys who eat them.” Okay, that might be an extreme example, but the more information she has about you BEFORE you can get face-to-face with her is bad. You are a stranger to her and you don’t need to be posting information about yourself that could disqualify you before you reach date 1!
As for contacting her right after the date, I’m sure you know I’m against it because it kills the MYSTERY, the CHALLENGE, and her anticipating another date with you.
Should I send flowers or another gift the next day?
You know what’s one of the only book categories that’s still doing well? Romance novels for women. The guy with the flowing hair who charges the white horse and lifts her up is what a lot of women buy and eat these days.
Do you think the man with the horse sends her roses to work the next day with a card that tells her how much he likes her?
I do not think so.
Again, this ends the MYSTERY and the CHALLENGE!
