There are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a breakup, he may feel like his wholeness has come to an end.
It will not matter if they have been with the other person for months or years, since the pain can end them. One may then have gone from feeling on top of the world to feeling like one is at the bottom of the world.
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However, even if they did not feel this way, it is likely that the way they feel now is radically different. So one could have a physically strong body, a body covered in muscles, but it won’t have any effect on how they feel.
So, on the outside they will look strong, but they will feel incredibly weak on the inside. If they don’t have a body like this, they can still feel much weaker than they actually look.
A loss of control
Prior to this point in time, they may have been quite balanced and also found it quite easy to manage their emotions when this was not the case. Now, their emotions will be out of control and it might be more or less impossible for them to calm their emotions.
In fact, it might seem like they are all at sea now and there is very little they can do about it. So one of your greatest needs may be to do everything you can to regain control of your inner world.
One option
What one might end up doing, to experience support, is reaching out to their friends. Then it will be perfectly clear that they will not have the need to hide what they feel; they will be comfortable being vulnerable.
The strength that you currently lack internally will be provided by the people in your life. In the same way that scaffolding will support an unstable building; these people will sustain their unstable inner world.
Two ways
Since these people can be there for them in this way, it most likely shows that these people have a good relationship with their own emotions as well. Then they won’t be emotionally disconnected or believe that there is something wrong with being emotionally vulnerable.
They may also instinctively realize that no one is their own island and that there will be times in everyone’s lives when they need emotional support. Therefore, if they were not in a good way, they would also reach out to others in the same way.
The healthy approach
When one is not in a good way and reaches out to others, it will prevent them from tuning out how they feel. This will allow them to overcome the pain they are in.
This may take a few months or even longer, but the main thing is that you will allow this process to unfold. After a while, they will most likely gradually start to settle down, giving them a chance to find someone else.
another result
Alternatively, one could end up using their mind to tune out how they’re feeling, and this likely means they’ll rarely come in contact with their pain. And, even when this pain reaches their consciousness, they will soon do what they can to push it back into their body.
This may mean that there is no one in their life they can open up to, or it could simply show that they are not comfortable reaching out to others. Either way, this bread will get stuck inside them.
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What this will do is allow them to settle down without having to work through their emotional pain. The downside of this approach is that they will no longer be able to function as a full human being.
Not only will they lose touch with their ‘bad’ feelings, but they will also lose touch with their ‘good’ feelings. So they can seem like someone who is very flat, and they can even seem cold.
false highs
Being out of touch with the very things that allow them to feel alive, they can end up being drawn to things that will artificially bring them to life. This may mean that they will end up being drawn to alcohol, drugs, have endless chance encounters, and/or may constantly travel abroad.
The downside is that the momentary sense of vitality they get from engaging in such things will likely make it even more difficult for them to manage their normal state. So it’s easy to see why they might become addicted to these things.
Awareness
If someone like that were to get in touch with their pain, they might feel too ashamed to reach out to others. Keeping this pain to themselves by disconnecting from it will then have been a way of dealing with it safely.
With this in mind, it will be essential for one to accept that there is nothing wrong with seeking support. And even if another person tries to embarrass them, he would just show that this person has their own wounds to deal with.
If you can relate to this and want to change your life, you may need the help of a therapist or healer.
