Ignoring her, and having TONS of fish on the line
Many guys will focus only on one girl and at the same time push her away, why is this? Imagine that you are fishing and you only have one “rod” in the water. Inherently, you will pay too much attention to the line and jump on it the second it moves. Now imagine that you have ten reeds in the water, one is shaking but you do not pay the same level of attention because two others are showing interest at the same time. The more fish you are curious about your bait, the greater the chances that you will catch one, not just because of a numbers game, but simply because you can’t physically pay too much attention to just one. This is a type of positive self-sabotage to keep your attention divided. This is one of the weirdest things about relationships and it’s exactly why “when it rains, it pours” is a very true adage.
The art of pushing and pulling
Push and Pull I’ve heard in the PUA world a number of times, but I’ve never heard a good explanation of why it works and I’ve never heard it applied to how to text a girl. Let me explain how to move this tool so there is no question about how to text a girl, perfectly. I liken pushing and pulling to self-stimulation (you understand what I mean, right?) As you “work” on yourself, you are creating arousal. If he just “pulled” or just “pushed”, there would be no attraction “erected” and certainly no release. In the world of texting, it might look like this: You: Hey honey, did you get that job yet? (pulls) Her: I don’t know, I’m still a little worried You: Well, if you weren’t so unqualified (pushes) Her: Hey! What is that supposed to mean !? You: I was talking about us (second push) Her: Anyway, you wish you could go out with me! € You: Sigh, you’re right, I’m certainly not in your league (pulls) Her: God! I know you … so full of yourself You: Of course I am, and that’s why you want me (pushes) Her: hahaha, no … You: Ok honey, I have to run, good luck at work and let me know if you get it (pulls) Her: Thank you! Be careful … We have just stimulated the situation and since there was no release we have created interest for the second interaction, very good. (Let me add something, just read another tip from “textpert” on how to text women. To my lack of surprise, it was relatively rude and about 80% pushy. This is the most common PUA mistake, weird Once they incorporate enough pull and put themselves they run the risk of being labeled an idiot, or only create attraction based on a temporary negative tension)
Why should you be a bummer with the text?
Being difficult is an excellent tool to create attraction on the text because it forces the other person to follow your rules and not theirs. Many guys when texting a girl will adopt a more passive role, believing that if she “likes” you, she will choose you. It is not that simple, does anyone want something that is not a challenge? This comes down to the perception of value, if there are a ton of obstacles in your particular career, it certainly makes it more fun to win. We want to make sure that she values you as much as possible and therefore wants to compete. Example: Her: Hey, when are you going to ask me out? You: I was going to ask you the same question. Her: Girls don’t ask guys out. You: Well, I guess we’re not going out, so disappointing … Her: Come on, just say it, and don’t worry, I’ll say yes. You: No, and I know you will say yes, I can say you got it wrong for me! Her: Jeeze … Why do you have to be so difficult? You: Because you like it. She: Maybe I’ll do well … I’m free in. This text exchange can take place for an hour or a few days, but the point is, you didn’t go back. Women love to push boundaries to test what kind of man you are, this is natural, this is normal. Being difficult and not submitting to a woman’s will is incredibly attractive and powerful when texting a girl.
Safety and comfort, then sex
Above we talked a lot about pushing her, being difficult, ignoring her, and simply increasing your value by being unconventional. At the same time, it is incredibly important to communicate that you are a confident guy, that you are friendly, that you are decent, and that sex is not your priority. Fortunately, the text message is a great place to do this, with the text you can create your response rather than the knee-jerk reaction that you might throw up in person. Not creating safety and comfort is the number one reason why it closes the doors of sex to your advances. If you don’t know how to text a girl correctly and you send her something that is too sexual or mildly aggressive, you will trigger her run away response. Do you know why women love gay men? Because they get their male fix without any sexual threats. I’m not asking you to be effeminate with women (but it certainly doesn’t hurt) just to understand that even the slightest physical sexual threat makes women run. How does this translate to texting girls? Simple, keep conversations about sex to a minimum, keep anger fully involved, and introduce them to the safest guy you can. Now mix that with pushing / pulling, and you have a man who stupidly attracts ALL women. (Note that danger is a form of sexual tension, but this is a tightrope of attraction, which can take a long time to master)
Your goal is to dominate, not a bunch of rules and techniques.
I teach a bunch of rules and techniques for texting girls, but personally I don’t need them anymore. Why? Because I understand the secret of balance in relationships, something that, if understood, will launch you to success, not just with the girls who are texting, but in all relationships. Make sure to continue below to really master texting.
