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Do you think you’re dating a player? Do you want to avoid being his next conquest?

A player is a man who is actively looking for women and has a number of “relationships” at the same time. There are hundreds of courses and books on the market that teach men how to be pick-up artists. How to master seduction techniques. How to make women sleep with them. Unfortunately, there are many men who buy these products and use these techniques to become gamers.
If you find out that you are dating a player, you have 3 options: end the relationship, stay in the relationship, or decide to play your own game. No matter which one you choose, you need to learn a few things to protect your heart.

How to know you are dating a player

1. intentions: Always assume with every date that they have different intentions than you. Even the nicest guy can exhibit gamer tendencies if you let him. So always keep your guard up. You don’t want to be any man’s toy or temporary trophy.
2. Attention: Look at the amount of attention he’s giving you early on. Does he seem almost obsessed? Does he call you often, more often than anyone else? Trying to tie up all your free time?
3. compliments: Is he always complimenting you, making you happy, making you feel good? Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it seems like she’s doing it more than most other men you date. A player will go overboard with praise, which makes them attractive, but it’s a warning sign.
4. Future plans: Is he talking about the future after only a few weeks of dating? About the life he wants to share with you? The house you want. Kids. Their dreams. Is he pushing you into exclusivity? While a man who is interested in you can do this, he won’t do it as quickly as a player. Remember that most men are very slow to talk about a committed relationship, so be careful with this.
5. Consistency: Is it inconsistent? The players are not the most honest men. So he listens to what he is saying. This is how most players are discovered. It’s easy to keep up the facade for a few weeks, but after a few months it’s hard to keep the lies in sight.
6. Friends: When you’re around their friends, do they treat you like you don’t matter or are a joke? Don’t they make any effort to get to know you? They don’t want to meet you because they know you will soon be replaced by the new flavor of the week.
7. looking good: How does looks matter more than your feelings? Players are obsessed with themselves and their needs. If you find that what you need is constantly put in the background, then you are probably with a player. Do you need me to lend you money sometimes so you can spend your money on looking good? Having the right clothes, the right car, being seen in the right places with the right people.
8. Phone calls: After you’ve been dating for a while, has he suddenly become busy? Not answering your phone calls. And when he calls you back, he’s always busy and can’t talk for a long time. No more hour long conversations about your future. Just a quick call to get you to stop calling him.
9. Go out: After you’ve been dating for a while, has he stopped dating you? Do your dates tend to be at her house or yours? Does he keep you away from his friends or the places he frequents? Does the man who used to treat you to dinner now limit his spending to a dollar red box movie and microwave popcorn, which he tries to make you pay for?
10. sex and money: Fancy a booty call or an ATM? Does it seem after all is said and done that all you want is sex or money? In some cases, it can even feel like you’re paying her for sex.

Players want to have many women so they can always get what they want. Each woman can have a different purpose. Some for money, some for sex, some to show off. A player will not commit to anyone and does not want anyone to think they are a couple because it limits his chances of getting more women. Your best bet is to avoid getting involved with a player in the first place.

If you discover that you are dating a player, you have 3 options:

1. End the relationship immediately. before it takes its emotional toll. Know that you will not change a player. If you find that you have a habit of attracting players or being attracted to players, stop dating. Take the time to see why this is happening. Build your self-esteem and feel good about yourself before you go out again.
2. Stay in the relationship and eventually suffer for it. Not what I would suggest. But women do it every day. But know that there will be pain and heartache if you choose to go down this path. That is why if you decide to keep your player I recommend the 3rd option.
3. Accept that you are a player, establish the rules and limits of your game. and casually hanging out with other people as well. If you keep dating him, it changes the game. Let your relationship work by your rules, not yours. If this means slowing it down, do it. If that means cutting it, do it. Do what’s best for you, not for him. Don’t play his game because if you do, the odds are against you. By dating other men you will know and have a constant reminder that you are not in an exclusive relationship with your player. That’s what the player wants, exclusivity on YOUR side, never on theirs. Over time you will realize that you really don’t want what your player offers.

Before going on a date, whether with a player or not, you need to set your boundaries. Decide on some time constraints for the stages of your relationship. Know in advance how slowly or quickly you want to move toward intimacy and exclusivity. The right man will wait. A player will get impatient and eventually give up trying. That’s a simple way to eliminate them so you can focus your attention and affection on someone who loves you and is committed to you.