When you break up with someone, your world can be completely shattered, your whole life is turned upside down. Eventually you have to start thinking about going out and socializing again. Socializing when you’re single can be quite different from socializing when you’re in a relationship. It was a big worry for me when I split up with my partner of 7 years, everything had changed since the last time I was single, mainly the fact that all my friends were now in long-term relationships and I had no one to go with. I’m only thirty years old, but even in those 7 years of being in a relationship, the whole dating game had changed.
Whereas before, in your early twenties, after a relationship breakup, your friends would just say don’t worry about it, forget about them and let’s party, you were never short of things to do and your friends were always there. out. and about We would go out to clubs or to a bar; it would be very easy to meet people.
Things have changed since then, my friends don’t go out as much anymore, since they are all in couples and they like to do couple things (as we all do in that situation), like quiet drinks at each other’s houses and nice and very nice meals. occasionally one night. outside. That’s all great when you’re in a relationship and it’s always nice to socialize with your friends, but being single you want the chance to meet other people outside of your immediate circle of friends and that’s pretty hard if you’re with partners all the time. .
Even though my profession is heavily involved in the internet, I never tried dating websites and really didn’t like it, don’t get me wrong, some of my friends have met their matches on their and they swear by it. But I like traditional communication in the sense of meeting people face to face, it’s more daunting for some but I find it much more fun.
So I found myself adapting quickly to the situation and you end up dating other single people from work or acquaintances that you don’t always plan to socialize with, not just because they’re single (well, sometimes) but because they’re in the same situation as you and your style. of life is similar to yours.
I would advise not turning down any social opportunity, accept them all, random nights are always the best and you never know where you will end up or who you will meet, the feeling of freedom is incredible. I quickly discovered that I loved this new lifestyle, living alone in the post-breakup moment, and learned a lot about myself in that time. I had no ties or commitments (apart from my cat) and I could come and go whenever I wanted, it was a very cool time in my life and I enjoyed it very much.
It’s weird what worries you after a breakup, but to me this felt like a very important thing at the time, how I would cope with living alone and dating again and socializing. But these concerns are quickly dispelled when you’re out partying.
I wrote this article for others in the same situation I was in, those worried about going out and socializing and being in the singles lifestyle again is scary and daunting. I loved it again though, it was different than when I was twenty but in a better way, this time I had more confidence in myself to meet people and I certainly had more money to do things than I did back then.
About a year later, I met someone who I’m very happy with, I met her at a nightclub and we have so much in common it’s scary. Especially since she is not originally from this country, but the traditional dating of hers is still alive and well and fun.
If you find yourself in this situation instead of initially looking at the negatives, which is very natural, try to look at the positives, there are many, and the sooner you do that, the faster you will adopt your new post-breakup lifestyle. .
Have fun and take care!!
