Should you throw a bachelorette party? Many brides are tempted to have a wild and fun night out with their friends. The age-old tradition of “bachelor parties” has now passed into the hands of the brides. Women are no longer satisfied with simply having a tea party and opening presents. They want to go out on the town and have fun, just like men. But is a bachelorette party a good idea? Let’s talk about some pros and cons.
Pro: A bachelorette party is good for girlfriend relationships. Entering married life often changes our friendships whether we want it to or not. As this relationship changes, it can be quite frustrating for both the girlfriend and the friends, who don’t quite understand what’s going on. Some brides actually lose valuable friendships they have had as they don’t know how to nurture these friendships during this period. Hosting a bachelorette party can be a way to spend time with your girlfriends and let them have a good time.
Con: Your husband-to-be may be jealous or a little upset at the idea of a bachelorette party. While a bachelorette party is usually as harmless as a little nightclub dancing and drinking a few Cosmos, some husbands don’t like the idea of a night of flirting. They just don’t want their future wives to be on the “bachelors scene” even for one night. Depending on your relationship with her husband, this can cause tension and disagreements. If there has been infidelity in the past, this bachelorette party can cause even more pain than a night of harmless fun. Good communication skills are critical.
Pro: It can make you realize even more than ever that you really want to get married. A night out with friends can be fun, but you can secretly be so relieved to have a husband to go home with at the end of it. While your friends may be single and still looking, you’ve found your special sweetie. If your relationship is strong, this can be a great confirmation of this. But if your relationship is rocky, it can cause challenges where they may have existed before. In a way, this might do you a favor before you get into a more serious commitment than you’re really prepared for.
Con: Bachelorette parties are expensive. The entire wedding experience is expensive for the average couple. Adding a bridal shower to the mix will add hundreds if not thousands of dollars to the price. Many brides are looking for a sexy outfit, a limo and drinks for their friends, or admission to a fancy nightclub. This is money that could go towards larger purchases during this time.
