Before you start thinking about your ex boyfriend, let’s focus on someone much more important. YOU. It’s time for you to realize your true worth, to build your confidence, to become a person desired by others, and to build a great life away from your relationship with your ex boyfriend. As soon as you accept that you can let your ex boyfriend go, you’ve taken the first step toward getting him back.
You’re probably on pretty low ebb and maybe you feel like you can’t get up from here, you couldn’t be more wrong. Become the most important person in your life and others will follow.
Consider this for a moment; Men want what they cannot have and value what they have to work for, what is in short supply, and what everyone else wants. Making yourself popular with others and desired by others will make your ex boyfriend struggle to get back with you.
So rule number 1 is to get scarce. Cut off all contact with him, no text messages or emails, nothing. If there are major problems to solve, ask a close friend to contact you, ask your friend not to comment more than is necessary to complete the business.
Next, get a makeover, nothing drastic or expensive, maybe a makeover, some new clothes, and go for a walk. If it’s been a while since you’ve done this and you’re feeling a bit intimidated, put on a pair of heels, take a deep breath, and do it.
This is your new life that you are planning to make the most of.
Spending time with friends and making new friends, doing things that you really enjoy will revitalize you, you will walk upright and smile, your desirability factor will instantly increase. You have to show your ex-boyfriend that you can enjoy life without him, that you are independent, confident and happy (although deep down you still suffer).
The psychological effect this will have on your ex boyfriend will be impressive, suddenly you are pressing all the right buttons that men don’t really know are there, but you do it and it is having the desired effect.
When you make contact, don’t jump straight back, be nice and nice, but a bit distant. If he asks you out, make excuses that you are busy for the next few days, but you will call him. Now you are driving him crazy and again increasing your attractiveness.
When you’re ready, send him a short message asking how he’s doing and let him contact you to suggest an appointment. Make your first date an opportunity to “get to know each other” again. Be observant and listen carefully to what they have to say. It is the moment to make a decision for you, since he wants to get back together, but this is what you really want.
You have put yourself in a very powerful position, now you can decide your own destiny. Do you want to continue your great new life or is your passion for your ex boyfriend as strong as ever?
If you get back together, set your own terms, as you don’t want the relationship to fail a second time.
I would like to offer you one last piece of advice, during your breakup never make adverse comments to others, even best friends, about your ex boyfriend, do not criticize him in any way, this is a mistake that can come back and bite you. One day.
I wish you the best of success in the path you choose.
Thank you for taking the time to read this article. I sincerely hope it has given you the help you were looking for. I would like to recommend that you also take a look at the advice given by a genuine expert in this field Matt Houston, I have included a short pencil photo of the gentleman below.
