Much has been said in recent years about the number of people taking their own lives and how this has gotten worse over time. Along with this are the people who often think about calling it a day.
With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants to end their life, they will either end their life or think about taking this step often. Thus, if someone does not do the first or thinks of doing the second, they do not want their life to end.
Two levels
As accurate as this may sound, what it won’t take into account is that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. What this means is that just because someone doesn’t want something on the first level, doesn’t mean they don’t want it on the second level.
In this context, then, one might not try to end their life or even think about doing so, but might live in such a way as to show that this is what they want on a deeper level. Now this can mean that they will often end up in life and death situations, but it could normally be much more subtle than that.
common examples
If they are dragged, both consciously and unconsciously, into situations like this, it could mean that they are used to experiencing a lot of adrenaline. Therefore, they were often able to drive at high speeds.
They might often do what they can to antagonize others, and get into a lot of fights as a result. Or, if they don’t drive very fast or antagonize others, they could often spend time in the company of those who do.
under the radar
Conversely, if it’s not as extreme, it could mean that they often drink a lot of alcohol or use a lot of drugs. Also, they may only become sexually aroused if they are with someone who physically hurts and humiliates them.
However, even this could go a bit far and they can do things that are even harder for the average person to understand. Still, if someone else is in a similar position to you, he may not realize what’s going on anyway.
It’s obvious
On the other hand, it is usually much easier for someone to notice one of their own problems in another, due to their ego-mind’s defenses, than to notice it in themselves. Ergo, if one is committing suicide in a very slow and subtle way, one might soon notice if someone else is doing it in a more rapid and direct way.
What they see will be a more exaggerated expression of what they are doing, so it will stand out. But, because it’s so much bigger, and assuming you’re not willing to go inside yourself, you won’t be able to connect the dots, so to speak.
Some examples
If you don’t do anything extreme, or something that is perceived as extreme in the society you live in, it could mean you are a workaholic. By doing so, they won’t give themselves a chance to recharge and take care of their other needs.
This can mean that they will eat things that are not good for them, not exercise, and focus primarily on the needs of other people. Also, they could be in a relationship with someone who treats them badly or just isn’t a good match.
From outside
Because of how hard they work and if they “selflessly” put the needs of others first, there may be many people who believe that one is a model citizen. So one will slowly head towards the edge of a cliff, but this will not be detected.
As the years go by, one might get more and more exhausted, but could keep doing the same thing. There could come a time when you burn out or have a life-changing illness and just can’t continue in the same way.
The result
At this point, some people might say that they are “unlucky” or “unlucky” and that they don’t deserve to be that way. In their eyes, one should live a good life because of what they have contributed and done for others over the years.
As correct as this point of view may seem, it will be no more than a cursory assessment. What it won’t take into account is that you will have been abusing yourself for many, many years and it is most likely this and all the stress that went with it, not “bad luck” or “misfortune” that will have to lead to his ruin.
What’s going on?
Without realizing it, they have spent most of their time on this planet doing what they can to destroy themselves. Although they have treated some people well, they have not treated themselves well.
What this probably shows is that deep down, they feel worthless and hate themselves. As a result of this, they don’t believe that they deserve to be here or that they are worthy of life and want their life to end, this is seen as the only way to put themselves out of their misery.
back in time
If they felt different, there would be no reason for them to abuse themselves. But, because they feel so useless, treating themselves badly will be seen as what they deserve and will feel comfortable.
What this may illustrate is that their early years were brutal, this being a time where they were abused and/or neglected on a weekly if not daily basis. Being self-centered at this stage in their lives, what happened would have been taken personally.
Awareness
Ultimately, the way they were treated was a reflection of what was going on with their caregivers. No matter how they have been treated during this stage of their life, the truth is that they are intrinsically valuable and deserve to exist.
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However, for them to realize this at the core of their being and begin to treat themselves with the love and respect they deserve, they will need to deal with their inner wounds. This is something that can be done with the help of a therapist or healer.
