If several people were asked what they think about anger, some might say that it is a “bad” emotion. So this is going to be a black and white thing, which means it’s not open to debate.
Someone like that could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes problems, and therefore has no place in today’s world. In his eyes, it would be better if human beings no longer had the ability to get angry.
Another perspective
Then there will be others who do not agree with this point of view; it may be difficult for them to understand how anyone can believe this. When someone has this point of view, they may believe that anger is neither good nor bad.
They might say that it all depends on how someone responds to their anger and how their anger affects their behavior. This emotion will then be neutral; what will define whether it is good or bad is how someone channels this energy.
Another example
One could point to the fact that while a car may allow someone to get where they need to go, it could also allow them to run over people. But while this is the case, it is not that cars are considered bad.
However, it does not stop there, as there are many other things on this planet that can be used positively or negatively. However, for whatever reason, anger is rarely seen as neutral.
Past experience
If someone believes that anger is bad, it could be a sign that they have primarily had experiences where it was used destructively. They may have been surrounded by violent people, for example.
Or they may have been surrounded by people who ended up treating people badly every time they got angry. You may not just relate to other people as one may have been violent and / or treated people badly in the past when they got angry.
One option
So this will be similar to someone who has only had negative experiences with animals; it will be as if all animals were like that. It does not matter if it relates to the animals they have had or what other people have had, the result will have been the same.
If someone is open-minded, they may be willing to see how anger can also be used constructively. This would give them the opportunity to see anger in a different light and to form a new relationship with their own anger.
Self-control
Ultimately, when someone causes harm, their anger is not the problem; the problem is that you are being controlled by your anger. This prevents them from taking a step back and then using this energy in a positive way.
Taking this into account, to say that anger is bad would be to say that a car is bad for hitting a building; when the only reason this happened is because the driver allowed it to happen. What this emphasizes is how important it is for someone to be able to contain how they feel and not be controlled by their emotions.
Purely information
When you can do this, you can connect with how you feel and find out why you are feeling angry. This could show that they have been compromised or raped in some way, or it could show that something from their past has been unleashed.
If you relate to the former, it might be a good idea for them to stand their ground and talk, for example. So you are not reacting to how they feel, they are responding to how they feel.
A big difference
This means that one will not appear to be someone who lacks self-control; They will give the impression of someone who has good limits. This emotion will then be no different than any other emotion as it will be used as information.
The alternative would be for you to be compromised or violated in some way, but don’t get angry. Here, one would be out of touch with their anger, which is there to protect them and keep them alive.
Enslaved
When one is unable to contain their anger and ends up being controlled by it, it will become clear that they are not in control of themselves. It may not take much for them to lose it, as something quite trivial is enough to set them off.
What happens (the stimulus) will generally be overshadowed by how they behave (response). This could cause them to raise their voices or they could end up physically hurting another person.
A deep wound
There may have been a time in their life when they were raped, and this would have caused them a lot of pain. Perhaps they were physically abused when they were younger.
Along with this, they could have been neglected, and this would have prevented them from receiving the kind of attention they needed to develop the ability to regulate their own emotions. There would have been the effect this had on her body and her mind.
Awareness
If you can relate to this and want to develop the ability to handle your emotions, it might be a good idea to seek outside support. This can be done with the help of a therapist or healer.
