They ask me this question all the time: “David, how do you know if a woman is attracted to you?” A lot of guys will tell me, “I flirt with her, but I’m not sure she likes me.”
One of the best indicators that a woman is receptive to your flirtatious words is if you can get her to blush. So how do you get her to blush? Is there a magic word you need to say?
Remember when you were in fifth grade and girls would tease a girl about a boy she liked named Robbie saying, “You like Robbie! You like Robbie! Nah Nah Nah Nah Nah Nah!”
Let me tell you that we are no different than that boy and girl who were in love. As an adult, you want to fall in love. A crush is fun. If you are in love, you can blush.
So how do you make a little girl blush or more importantly, how do you make a big girl blush? You need to tease her as a joke. Maybe you start by finding out something about her and teasing her about it.
I once knew a woman who was a Virgo. When he told me he was a Virgo, I said, “Forget it. The conversation is over. I’m not dating Virgo. You think too much.” I was making fun of her. So for the rest of the conversation, I proceeded to tease her a few more times about other things.
It’s hilarious though, because the topic of the conversation kept coming back to how Virgos overthink and don’t like to change. He kept defending himself and saying that it was all about a change. In fact, I have no idea if Virgos don’t like change.
The bottom line is this: when you’re flirting with women, you want to mix things up. You want funny jokes, but you also want to know who they are and what motivates them. This is called information gathering.
During a three-minute conversation I had with a woman while my friend was shopping for clothes, I was able to discover many things about her. Not superficial things, real things.
I found out where she grew up, what she liked as a child, and about her shyness as a child (which is why, of course, I made fun of her). The conversation was about learning what he likes to explore and do.
Instead of objectifying her like most guys do, I met her while my friend was shopping. Women want to meet men, but they don’t want to feel like they’ve just been picked up by a pick-up artist. So now most of you would like to know how I closed it when we finished shopping.
Here’s the question of shutting down someone. If you pay attention to what they say, if you care who they are, and if you mix them with a fun and playful flirtation … then they are already closed.
If they are already closed, it means that they have already secretly fallen in love with you. If a woman has secretly fallen in love with you and you ask her out in a fun way, she will blush.
So how did I ask this woman out? She’s new to LA and she told me she has 2.5 friends here, so I looked at her and said, “You really need more than 2.5 friends. I’m going to give you a tour of LA and show you all the places you’ve visited. I’ve never been (what I knew because I had already asked) “. Then she gave me her phone number, and as she did so, she blushed.
This is how you make a woman blush. You do this by being playful and fun, and asking her out using things she already said to you during the conversation.
By the way, I made another woman blush that very day. I joked with her that her dog didn’t find me attractive, but she pulled out of the conversation too quickly because she was shy and because I was teasing her. However, when it was ejected, it turned red … and blushed.