The great lie.
People say it in different ways.
It usually begins: “As long as you honor God with your substance …”
And then they end it with …
“… God will reward you with a wonderful wife.”
“… you can claim your spouse.”
“… and have a marriage made in heaven.”
And so on.
Well, part of that is true.
Some people seem to have it easy. They do not face the same struggles that ordinary people face.
But for the vast majority of single men and women I have come across, the story is different. It has been an ongoing battle and they are fed up with the single life and the dating game.
Years ago, Dr. Neil Clarke Warren, founder of eHarmony.com, made the observation that millions of singles would love to get married, but only if they could live happily ever after with their partners.
And the truth is:
All the frustrating, exhilarating, maddening, and insane dating game has left many confused, bewildered, and hopeless.
This is hard for most Christian singles to swallow.
Especially when they’ve always been told that as long as you live a decent Christian life and look presentable, you’ll be good to go.
It should break your heart to see that many have been living decently for years … but suddenly they wake up to find that as they rapidly approach the proverbial age of 40, the hope for a happy marriage seems to be fading … like a mirage As the years go by
Why is this so?
There are 9 deadly mistakes almost all singles are making … in a desperate attempt to find and settle down with their godly spouse.
*** Mistake # 1
Have idols in your heart
This is one of the greats. Please pay close attention here. In the Bible, anything that takes God’s place in your heart is an idol. God wants to have the first place in your life. Especially when it comes to the subject of a godly spouse. HE has already saved the best for you. And you have to go to Him in prayer to find out.
And here lies the danger …
If you go to God with your mind already made up about someone you love and then ask Him to “sign” your preference for you … asking Him to show you if that person is your godly spouse, you will most likely hear the voice of your own emotions echoing in you … and NOT really the voice of God.
In this case, God may even say YES if he sees that deep down in your heart you have already made a decision.
In fact, the Bible says that if you come to God with an “idol” in your heart, He will respond to you according to what you have in your heart.
*** Mistake # 2
Ignoring your vehicle of destiny
Your vehicle of destiny is a certain skill, talent, attribute, or gift that God has given you … through which He will deliver the best for your life, including your godly spouse.
For some it is hospitality. For others, it is the milk of human goodness. For others, it is the ability to be persistent in the face of all adversity.
Yours can be spiritual or physical.
Perhaps the ability to sing. Or help others in one way or another. It’s supposed to be your most dominant attribute. But if you don’t recognize it … and use it to the fullest, most of your blessings will pass you by.
We see a good example of this in the Bible when we read the fascinating story of a young woman named Rebekah and how she connected with her godly spouse.
*** Mistake # 3
Continue to have sex outside of marriage.
The Bible clearly says that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. We are warned against all forms of sexual activity outside of marriage.
When you violate this crucial spiritual principle, you literally give the devil license to put you in a spiritual cage.
No one can find you.
Or propose marriage.
You could keep walking, as beautiful as ever, but in the spiritual realm the devil has already written something like “Not available” on your forehead.
*** Mistake # 4
Being ignorant of the mystery of spiritual marriage.
There is something called spiritual marriage. So many singles who cannot be married physically are already married to certain spirits as far as the spirit world is concerned.
You will have a clue if you have sex regularly in the dream or if you wake up feeling sexually aroused.
*** Mistake # 5
Enter into ungodly associations
Ungodly associations, such as consulting with astrologers, mediums, witches, occult people, can lead you to form soul ties with those people. What’s worse, they can implant a spiritual device in a person to monitor them wherever they go. And when something good is about to happen to that person, an alarm goes off in the spirit realm and invisible powers are quickly assigned to abort it.
In the specific case of marriage and relationships, if and when the person meets his godly spouse, an announcement is sent in the spiritual realm to ensure that the relationship is broken.
At any cost!
*** Mistake # 6
Ignoring the unbreakable covenants
A covenant is a binding agreement for two or more parties. Some may be generational. Others could be the result of one’s current activities.
There is a particularly important hidden covenant that is not mentioned as often. You should be aware of this when it comes to the subject of your godly spouse.
It is called a pact with the first sexual partner.
You form a hidden but very powerful pact with the first person you have sex with. In fact, it is a pact of blood, very stubborn to break. And it can prevent many from marrying.
*** Mistake # 7
Dismissing the theme of unholy dress
When Christians insist on dressing like the people of the world, they end up attracting the unwanted attention of spiritual beings … who are in love with their sexy clothing … and insist on following them in spirit, fighting for them like nothing else. humans would.
Many singles who pray for a spouse may end up pushing away their God-ordained spouse inadvertently because these invisible powers that follow them want them all for themselves … without competition!
*** Mistake # 8
Ignoring the activities of the evil manipulators
There are matchmakers in the spirit world. Most of them evil. Your job is to provide fake spouses. And manipulate people outside of God’s will.
Now, the Bible clearly warns against being unequally yoked with unbelievers, in 2 Corinthians 6 verse 14.
*** Mistake # 9
Leaving unbroken curses in place
Many singles today come from cursed families or communities … where people never stay married, separation and divorce are the order of the day, etc. Even in some families, all women never marry. Gold marries late. Or have broken marriages.
These people need to separate themselves spiritually from those backgrounds.
And then start praying in earnest.
*** Prayer for a spouse
There is a 9-step prayer plan for Christian singles who are interested in prayers to find love.
Here is a summary of the steps involved:
Step 1: You must deeply repent of these mistakes and ask the Lord for forgiveness.
Step 2: Appropriate the atoning sacrifice of the blood of Jesus.
Step 3: Identify and deal with Satanic entry points.
Step 4: Break and renounce all ungodly relationships and associations.
Step 5: Violently issue a letter of divorce in the spirit realm.
Step 6: Tie off and expel the evil plantings from your body.
Step 7: Order the evil spirit deposit to be removed from your life.
Step 8: Execute the judgment on the stubborn powers that refuse to let go.
Step 9: Learn the 17 Specific Prayers for Single Christian Dating.
Whether you are currently a Christian or not, or if you join a Christian dating site for singles, there are prayers for singles that you should pray to find the love of your life. As you deal with the mistakes explained here, the Lord will move you from single to married faster than you could ever imagine.
