Now that someone is in a relationship, it could become very clear that it is difficult for them to connect with how they feel. Up to this point, it may not have even occurred to them that this was the case.
Or, if they knew this was challenging for them, it might not have stood out in the same way. As a result of this, this might not have been something that absorbed his attention too much.
A different experience
Since they weren’t in a relationship at the moment, they might not have to be in tune with their feelings. When it came to their work and spending time with their friends, for example, they might have to be different.
Thus, their way of being would not have caused them any difficulty or given them the need to change themselves. So even if they thought about the future at the beginning of the relationship, there would have been no reason for them to worry about how they are.
Ready to go
At the beginning of the relationship, they may have believed that they were ready to go down this path. However, over time, your faith in your own preparation may have started to wane.
Alternatively, they may have simply wondered what was going on; it is difficult to understand why they are like this. Either way, this area of your life will be much more difficult than necessary.
Detained
When it comes to your partner, you might have a strong mental and physical connection with them, but the other part of your being, your heart, will not be fully on board. This does not mean that they do not feel anything for them; it likely means that this part of them won’t always be online, so to speak.
Also, they may find that they often find it easier to feel things for their partner when they are not in their company. Being this way might not have caused too much trouble before, but as time passed, this may have started to have a negative effect on the relationship.
Interior blocks
For one thing, not having a good connection with themselves will prevent them from being fully in the relationship. What this will do is hinder the progress of the relationship.
Also, not having a strong emotional connection with your partner could create uncertainty for them as well and this could cause them to hold back. The part of them that would lock them up, their heart, will rarely be there to guide and support them.
Conflict
Then there will be the impact that your behavior has on your partner. Your partner might believe that you are not really interested in them and question whether the relationship will last.
The reason for this is that they will not receive the emotional feedback they need. Then one will not have to do anything bad or bad, as they will indirectly send a strong message.
A state of confusion
After thinking about what is happening and their inability to stay connected with how they feel, they can often be angry and confused. They may be angry about what is happening and confused about why they are like this.
However, it could go even further and one could start to criticize oneself and end up feeling very depressed. If this occurs, it will be important for you to reflect on the fact that you are not consciously choosing to be this way.
Protection
Although being this way is causing problems for them and their partner, it is probably what they feel safe. In other words, being in tune with your emotional self and expressing how you feel will be seen as a threat to your own survival.
This can illustrate that something traumatic happened in your adult life, or it could be traced back to what happened during your early years. If you go back to their early years, it could show that they were abused and / or neglected.
Divided
To handle the pain they were in, they would have to disconnect from their emotional selves. Losing contact with this part of them would also have meant that they lost contact with his body.
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One would have gone from being connected to oneself, to living on the surface of oneself. Now that they are adults, their body will be frozen, seized, which will prevent them from being able to operate as a full human being.
Going forward
With this in mind, there will be a number of things you must do to change your life. They will have to investigate and change what they think will happen if they connect with their feelings and if they express them.
Another important part of this process will be that they overcome the pain they have in their body, so that they can become a more integrated human being. By working with this pain, it will be easier for you to manage how you feel and stay connected to your body.
Awareness
If you can relate to this and are ready to change your life, you may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.
