You want to learn how to forgive an unfaithful husband. She recently found out that her husband was unfaithful to her. You have likely been through a wide range of emotions. Everything from sadness to confusion to anger is fine on the surface. He has told you how sorry he is and you can feel his deep regret. He’s determined to save his marriage, but he’s not sure how to get over his infidelity and get to a place of forgiveness. You can do this if you have the right mindset and an idea of how forgiveness can actually help you more than it helps your husband.
Understanding how to forgive an unfaithful husband begins with acknowledging that no matter how much you want to wish his adultery away, you can’t. He cheated on you and now you must deal with the consequences of that. You must try to reach a place of acceptance. Wishing it hadn’t happened is natural and normal. But it happened and the sooner you can accept that he was unfaithful, the closer you will be to forgiveness.
The key to forgiving a cheating husband is to do it more for yourself than for him. Right now you are juggling a lot of anger and disappointment. You are also questioning what marriage meant to him and how he could have gone astray if he loved you as much as he said he does. Men cheat for a myriad of reasons and most have nothing to do with how they feel about their wives. For many men, the act of cheating has to do with physical connection and not emotional connection.
By forgiving him, you will allow yourself the opportunity to heal. You will release many of the negative emotions and you will find comfort in that. It is important to recognize that we all make mistakes in life, and while this is a horrendous mistake, it is forgivable.
The timeline for which you grant your forgiveness will be a personal choice. Some women find it easy to forgive quickly because they recognize that the marriage was in serious trouble and understand why their husband went astray. It takes time for other women to really find forgiveness, but it’s something they work for every day. If your husband shows you that he is truly sorry for what happened and wants to be a better partner, let that guide you toward forgiveness. It will help you put your feet on the road to rebuilding your marriage.
