What a man might see, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he finds things difficult to do and is often passive. In addition to being this way, you may find that you spend a lot of time feeling depressed.
So instead of being able to ‘take life by the horns’ so to speak, you will find it difficult to do anything and if you do something you will find it difficult to move on. In general, it can be as if you are simply on this planet to do the numbers.
An analogy
One way to see what you are going through would be to imagine that it is like a car without an engine. There will be other people around you who will walk everywhere, but you will rarely go anywhere.
Some of these cars will be younger regardless of whether they will be older, but at their age, they will have the ability to move. It will not matter that the car has wheels, as the energy will not be available to use them.
Other part
Being so, it could be normal for him to do what others want and for others to trample on him. As frustrating as it is for him to behave this way and tolerate this behavior, he probably doesn’t think he can do anything about it.
In the eyes of some people, he could be seen as a calm and even “disinterested” man, and to others, he could be seen as someone who pleases people and someone who lacks guts. He could go even further than this as some people see him as a man who has been neutered.
Your relationships
When it comes to those with whom he generally hangs out, most of them could be people who are the complete opposite of him. They probably won’t find it difficult to get things done and could be quite controlling.
If so, even though you will be out of touch with your inner power, many of the people in your life will be controlled by this part of them. He could often feel intimidated by these people and act submissive to them.
Your personality
Now, it could be the way it has been for as long as he can remember, and this could make you believe that this is how it is. So he was born this way and there is absolutely nothing he can do about what is happening.
Consequently, you will only have to endure what is happening and continue to live a miserable existence. However, while it may seem like it was born this way, there’s a strong chance that there is much more to it than this.
A natural result
Your early years may have been a time when your father abused you and your mother may have been too scared to do anything or may have been abusive as well. Perhaps her mother actively encouraged the harm done to her, with her using her father as a way to assert her own will.
Either way, this would have been a time when he was regularly beaten and perhaps verbally abused by him. Assuming this started to happen from a very young age, he would have been totally helpless.
Helpless
He could not have defended himself or run away, the only thing he could have done was freeze and disconnect from his body. Both survival responses would have occurred automatically, which is good, since he probably would have died otherwise.
Freezing would have been a way to “play dead” and stop being seen as a threat, also described as the fawn’s response. Leaving his body would have been a way for him to no longer realize what was going on without actually coming to an end, which is also described as dissociation.
Split off
These experiences would have led him to believe that it was not safe for him to exist or express himself. Therefore, losing touch with his aggression / fighting instinct would have been partly a consequence of him losing contact with his body and partly a consequence of growing up in an environment where it was simply safe for him to express his true self. me.
Living on the surface of yourself and being away from your body, along with the accompanying masculine strength, will be what you feel comfortable with. Ultimately, it will be seen that his survival depends on his not being an entity.
It has not finished
What happened will be in the past but, as your brain and body will have been impacted by what happened, you will not have really been able to get out of this stage of your life. You will have been deeply traumatized during this stage of your life and this traumatized state will have become “your personality.”
This trauma will need to be dealt with in order for him to return to his body and reconnect with his instinct for aggression / fighting. By doing this, you will no longer need to be trapped in your parasympathetic nervous system, and this is why you can often be closed, depressed, lacking energy, feeling helpless, and even having “low testosterone” as this will affect your hormones up.
Conscience
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If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.
