When it comes to the female orgasm, many men are unsure if there is a ‘magic button’ where they can push to completely arouse, thrill and satisfy a woman. Well, there is. I am referring, of course, to the clitoris, the only organ in the female body devoted entirely to sexual pleasure. This is an area that you must know well if you want to drive her crazy and give her the best orgasm.
ESSENTIAL FACTS ABOUT CLITORIS
If a woman is sexually aroused, the clitoris fills with blood, swells, and becomes more sensitive. After orgasm, the clitoris will return to its normal size as the accumulated blood disperses. If you can’t reach an orgasm, the blood can stay in the clitoral area and cause you discomfort.
The clitoris is a small, round bud of pink flesh located above the vaginal opening. It is covered by a soft fold of tissue called the clitoral hood to protect it from excessive stimulation. Most of what we can see of the clitoris is just the tip. But it’s actually a complex network of nerves that runs throughout the vagina and down to the nipples.
During arousal, the clitoris enlarges and the hood can be retracted to reveal the tip. You can use your fingers to gently remove the hood and stimulate the clitoris directly. But this direct stimulation can be too intense for most women. Instead, they prefer stimulation through the sides or top of the clitoral hood.
Some women may prefer a light touch to the clitoris, while others may enjoy vigorous stimulation. To play safely, you should start with a light touch and then adjust your touch depending on their reaction. Almost all women need a warm-up period or foreplay before they can enjoy clitoral stimulation.
Always make sure the clitoris is well lubricated before touching it. This can be discouraging for some women and downright painful for others. You can use your natural lubrication, saliva, or a water-based lubricant.
SOME WAYS TO STIMULATE YOUR CLITORIS
This is one of the best ways to stimulate the clitoris because almost all women love to receive oral sex. You use your best foreplay techniques to excite her as much as you can. When she starts moaning, you can go down and lick her unexposed clit until she is fully erect. If you like intense stimulation, you can gently remove the clitoral hood to directly lick the clitoris. You continue to do this, changing the direction of your lick from side to side up and down until she reaches orgasm.
Rubbing her clit
You can stand behind her and use the palm of your hand to cup the entire area of her vulva. You can then use your fingers to gently rub her clitoris and the area along the vaginal entrance using side-to-side or diagonal movements. To give her double pleasure, you can insert 2 fingers into her vagina to stimulate her G-spot while using your free thumb to massage her clitoris by drawing circles on it.
Using sex toys
This is a very effective method of making your orgasm quick. Sex toys can be of great help to you, especially if you are tired of using your mouth or hands and it takes a little longer for her to reach orgasm. A battery-operated vibrator or those vibration-capable elastic rings that you can slide over your ‘little brother’ are some of the options you can consider.
Stimulate the clitoris during sex.
This involves choosing those sexual positions that can offer you maximum clitoral stimulation. You can consider entering it from behind (doggy style) or you can use the woman up position, which can face you or out.
When she lies on her back, you position your pelvis slightly higher than hers so that as you enter her, your ‘little brother’ shaft is pressing firmly against her clit. With his legs wrapped around your waist, he will push up as you rock back slightly.
Another position you can try is to have your woman lie on her back with her knees bent close to her chest. After entering her, ask her to squeeze her legs tightly. Moving back and forth in this position will allow maximum contact with your labia and clitoris.